Yeap. Ok so here we go. The place to vent and bitch and complain and whine about our guy problems. LOL. ok aaaaaaand GO!

Oh you don't even wanna get me started

You don't wanna get me started either I have soooooooooooooooooooo many

haha oh but that is the point of this thread! lol.

Nice thread Hollsss. :hehe

I'm keepin my mouth shut. B)

same here

most of you know about my situation already..

with my ex breaking up with me to go back out with his ex and lying to me, saying that his parents made him do it.. k i'ma stop right now B)

His loss B)

:nod Jersey, you are way too cool for him anyways. B)

I agree you're way better


And you know that Taking Back Sunday rocks :na

oh yeah you don't want to get me started on this damn subject...

heck yes they do rock! :na

it's funny how i posted in this thread and then right after that, he IMed me.. i was so about to say, "I find it funny that you can talk to me online but not in person.", but then he signed off. oh well. B)

UGH!! I am so pissed right now! Ok, so my boyfriend Chris called me about 20 minutes ago and was all like "we need to talk" so I said ok lets talk and you know what he did? He blurted out "I am breaking up with you " and then HE HUNG UP!!!! So I called him back and asked if he was serious and he said that he was and that he has been dating one of my BEST friends for about 2 weeks now!! And nobody told me!! I just feel like crying right now :(

i thought after highschool the problems with guys were go down, they haven't but the intellectual level of the guys have, odd.

Newhoo.... a guy who I don't even know if I should allow it to be classified as dating, about 3-3 1/2 years ago made me look and feel like a complete and total idiot after going out on a limb. And then later I heard stories while i was away for school.
Welp, saturday night when working guess who comes walking in...him! and he was all chatty Mcchat like nothing happened and even left his number.

seriously....he's had my aim for about 6 years...guess it was just convienently not working for him for the past 3 1/2 years. BAH

:( I'm sorry, Bree!

And I would have been crying right when he said "we need to talk". lol, yeah I am lame and could cry about anything.

k yeah so there's this guy who's listening to everyone else's BS that they talk about me...then bitches ME out for it...and doesn't believe a word i say...then INSULTS me...calls me a liar...and puts me down. ohyeah. i hate guys.

ok, here i go...

ok, theres this guy friend, well he likes me more then a friend and calls me seriously 16 times a day, and well he is started to tick me off. he wont leave me ALONE! i mean he is more then two years younger then me! and i did like him as a friend but now that he wont leave me alone i am begining to not like him at all, like i was moving my stuff in my room around and i had to stop to go to a meeting, well i bemped into him at work and he asked me to go see a movie with him, well i told him the truth, that i cant i have to finish my room. well i got home and started to go back to my room when my mom yells at me that i have a visitor, well, there he is, he followed me home. and then he kept asking me why i wouldn't go with him... my mom was like OMG! i cant believe he followed you home after you told him no...

GAH!

*phew*... *pants* i hate guys!

I've been hearing that Boys are Bad since I was born... from my dad... dear god is it true.

My best guy friend and I have a complicated relationship we go from being best friends to well... more than best friends... he lives in San Fransisco and I live in Portland so... there is a distance issue. Any who it's just really complicated... he tells me he loves me and wants to be with me and all that stuff... we've known eachother for over 10 years... but it's just... I guess my big issue right now... it for the past couple of weeks we've been in this "I miss you" "I love you" stage and then... as has happend in the past... the dreaded "So my ex girlfriend wants to get back together" chat happens... which is him wanting adivce... and so I go back to the "best friend" role... it's my fault for falling in to it... but then again what do I expect with the distance...

So yeah that's my story so far... ha ha

And Hollee I LOVE this thread! You are a genius... it was needed!

Ok so I didn't have tome to post this last night but here I go...

Ok so most of you know about Matt and what happened last night. Well Pam and April do, but most of you know about Matt. Yesterday when he took me home he yelled at me and told me that I need to be more open about things. And I yelled back that he also needed to be more open and that I usually keep things to myself. And yesterday with him yelling at me made me realized how much I like and that I think his likes me too but the problem is I'm scared to tell hime because

1- He's just getting out a relationship
2- I'm scared about getting hurt
3- I haven't felt this way since Chris

And I don't know what to do.....

Ok since evryone is sharing here we go...


So this has been going on for about a year my best guy friend told me he liked me well at that point I was dating someone so I was like umm a little late sorry. Well he kinda stopped talkin gto me for a while and it didn't help that I changed jobs so we didn't get to see each other very often anymore. Well I started liking him again this summer he was dating someone so I was like ok just take my heart and stomp on it why don't you. He broke up with her, a while later just bc she wasn't good for him. But by that point it was too late and I had gotten over him, my feelings just changed I really can't see him as anything but my best friend. I told him that I didn't feel the same anymore and he got mad at me and didn't talk to me for 2 weeks, and still til this day continues to not really talk to me it's like pulling teeth to get him to talk to me and when he doesn he usually yells at me for doing something I dunno it hurts though we argue a lot I don't know how much longer we'll actually be best friends if this keeps going on.


Oh and not to mention my ex is so freaking confusing I don't know what to do with him maybe throw him off a cliff lol

thank you. but actually it was Amanda who gave me the idea. so thank her too!

Thank you amanda!! :)

O.K. seeing as I'm having issues w/ boys on my own... giving advice probobly isn't the best thing...

But... Kandykahne... I think you should tell him how you feel the worst thing he could say is no... but you need to do it when you are ready and when you feel comfortable... maybe you should wait though if he's just getting out of a relationship thus giving you time to decide if you have feelings for him AND to get over chris or at least get over the fear of going out there into the pond again :)

KaseyKahnefan... I think if he's treating you like this he wasn't really your best friend to start out with... not to say that he should stick around and wait for you but he should accept that you don't see him in that way... talk to him... tell him that your feelings have nothing to do with him that you just don't see him as more than a friend and express to him HOW important that friendship is to you but remind him it is ultimatly his choice... I had the same problem with a friend... he kept asking me out and I kept turning him down because he's always been more like a brother... he was upset but understood it in the end after we talked and I explained my side of it

Oh and I agree ex-boyfriends should be pushed off cliffs!

Ok so that's my advice ha ha... I tried... I'm no Dr. Phil here... and heck my experience w/ relationships is well basically non-existant... maybe if we could get a guys perspective ha ha

advice is always good!

:) Thanks for the advice Nic!!!!! I thought the same thing but I'm one of those people all my friends come to me for advice but when it comes to myself I'm like no that won't work, in other words I suck at taking my own advice.

well heres mine...


I got raped and held down and i would get beat, and i would be forced to do things i never wanted to do. then i would get called fat, and be compared to really skinny girls and then i would be called all these different hurtful names

Holli did you report him??

:( I'm so sorry. Are you okay Holli? I'm with Hollee did you report this?

I say..I don't care who he is...family or whoever. Report him. Please. I've had too many friends get raped and they didn't report it and things went from bad to worse.

Thanks for the advice!

I was going to say something today but I didn't. I chicken out and instead I sat between him and Kyle and watched Dodgeball, not even paying attention. My thoughts wonder and I really didn't even pay attention and then he asked me why I wasn't laughing and I told him that I really wasn't feeling good and yeah...it just wasn't a great day today at all

Um it's 4AM (PST time) and i'm up why... my boy called at 2:30 and then I couldn't go to sleep... and of course it has to be one of them in depth conferstations that you'd like to actually be fully coherant for but becaue he called at 2:30 not so much... GAH :bam

ok, well, this guy at work kept saying how much he cares about me and all this stuff and today he went off on me saying "go the Fu** away, i dont wanna see you! go F*cking kill yourself" ok..that set me off, i was fighting back the tears when i asked "what did i do to you?" and he had the nerve to say "you being you". WTF? i just looked at him and said "what the?... i hardly said anything to you! so dont go acting like this to me, i dont derserve it!" and he looked at me and said "whatever" and i said "don't ever talk to me ever again! i dont wanna see you ever again!" and walked off
then he had the nerve to say as i walked past him "are you talking to me yet?" laughing...
i didn't even look at him, just kept on walking.
he knows that i cut my wrists! he knows i think about killing myself alot! why did he have to say these things?!

Im emotionally scarred from what he did. Not only that but He was an ass to me on my grandmas funeral and he knew that I was already upset and he just made it worse for me. He once broke up with me over the phone and he started saying shit to me and he put all the blame on me for his problems. He would also starve me and he would bash me for like Kasey and all the rest of the drivers I like and he would be like fuck you and when we'd stay at his moms id be out in the living room sleeping and hes start kicking my bed and start jumping on me and he knew i had a really bad back injury but yet he didnt even care and just typing all the rest of the things hes done is making me upset and cry
I didnt report him cause I didnt want my mom to find put cause if she did shed be like oh well i know youre just making it up and shed just make things worse so I just went and I turned to my cousin and my cousins wife and theyve helped me. I feel like I can trust them more than my own mom cause my mom just tends to make things worse and she likes to spread whatever happens to me around

hun honestly if i were you...i wouldn't care what everyone thought or what they said..report him. DO NOT let him get away with this. like i said i've had friends fall into the same situation and when they did nothing...it got worse.

You NEED to report him.

What he did is illegal and he needs to face the consequences of his actions. If you don't, then he'll keep pulling this shit with other people until someone does report him.

:nod

Report him. Don't let yourself regret it down the road when it happens to somebody else.

I'll third that. It's really important that you stand up for yourself as well as the other girls he might do this to.

Thanks girls for the backup. I really hate to see ANYONE go through this and not have justice done to them...

well i agree i was raped and it helps to turn the person in because if you do you know you could stop them from doing it to alot of people...i just told my fiance that it happened and he went a like flipped out on the guy who did it

right now i have no guy trouble

I haven't heard anything from the a$$ since June and I plan to keep it that way and since Im related to almost half the town I live in, its a danger zone for him cause just about everyone Im related to wants to kill him for what hes done to me

Just DONT ask what my dad did to me when I was little

You not reporting isn't giving him the consequences he needs to face. In fact, it's giving him an inflated ego because he probably knows he got away with something completely ILLEGAL.

Report. The. Jackass.

It doesn't matter if it happened 6 months ago or 6 hours ago. The jackass needs to be reported. Vigilante justice, like what your family is wanting to do, is NOT the answer to this.

Don't brush this under the rug. Seriously. Your actions will save someone else from getting raped.

And the same with whatever happened with your dad. You need to tell someone if you haven't already.

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